One time…A lot of times, I’ve been so mad at myself, I’ll scold myself by writing out what I feel.I’d write something like, ‘Mariam, You’re not doing enough!!!, Mariam, were are your results!! Mariam, you should have done it like she did hers.’
But I figured, Sometimes we tend to be so hard on ourselves simply because we are not getting the results we want, even when we are doing all we can, that’s unfair.
One time, I hadn’t posted or done anything for a while, so I really scolded myself saying I was slacking and becoming everything I said not to be.
That was totally fine.
I sat up.
And relented again.
And sat up.
And again and again.
I’m not saying we should be lazy and all, Nah!!
I’m saying, enjoy the process of mastery.
You’ll have to consciously do a thing over and over and over again, until it becomes part of you.
Do all you can, be hardworking, push yourself beyond limits.
Scold yourself when you’re slacking.
As long as you’re not blinded to making the same mistakes and not wanting to take corrections, be kind to you.
SCOLD YOURSELF, REMIND YOURSELF OF YOUR GOALS, BUT EVERYOTHER TIME YOU’RE NOT DOING THOSE, GIVE YOURSELF SOME ACCOLADES.
One time, I wanted to get my nails done, so, I considered it for a longggggggg time, after everything, I did it!!!
You know why!!?
Cause I’m awesome and I deserve to spoil myself sometimes!!
Also, learn to accept compliments.
When someone says, ”oh, you did great…don’t reply with, ‘ahn ahn, stop whyning me.’ or ‘Are you serious? Me that I look like a skrep,’ bla bla bla.
I remember then in secondary school, I used to drum😂😂😎 and play basketball 😎😅
I never ever accepted a compliment.
Someone would say, ‘Mariam Momoh, you saved the day,’ and I’d be like, ‘Hmm…who am I? I’m nothing but a pencil in the hands of the creator. mere mortal like me’ 😂😂😂
We thought we were being humble 😑😑
Even if you didn’t do something or it was a group effort, but you got complimented for it, say thank you and immediately give credit to the actual person or others.
Lastly, Don’t get used to saying, ‘I’m just there, I’m managing, Las Las, we go dey alright,’ when nothing is wrong with you.
You’ll just become an object of pity or prayer point😑😑😑
If you need help, speak up.
‘I’m managing’ does not equals ‘I’m doing fine.’
If you’re okay, Say you’re great! If you’re not, you can ask some trusted people for advice. Better still, talk to God!
Don’t come and go and kill yourself and now die biko!!
You’re doing amazingly well and you deserve all the accolades!
Keep it up.
Enjoy your mastery process.
If you fall, get up, dust off the dirt and keep on running,
Life is a marathon!